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How can we unleash the full potential of our marriage if we have a spiritual chasm between us? (If anyone knows Pete, or why he cares about the children, please let me know in the comments—oh, and tell him I want back my copy of As tempting as it was to ignore the problem of our differences and hope it went away, Rachel and I talked about it, and decided that since we valued our marriage too much to leave it to chance, we would be proactive about addressing our differences: we’d do it the hard way. I don’t want to be her Savior, I want to be her husband.How can we possibly understand each other when we approach life so differently? What is it about Jews and Christians that they need to suffer to feel alive? I want to spend every day getting closer to her and knowing her more, faith and all. By recognizing your own faith, even if it’s belief in mammon—or as Washington Irving called it: “The Almighty Dollar”—you can understand how essential faith is to the core of our being.When a Christian marries an agnostic, or anyone of non-Christian belief for that matter, this unity of purpose and direction is not possible.That which is fundamental and central to the Christian person’s life is not fundamental and central to the non-Christian’s life.These beliefs formed my worldview as a young atheist: I sincerely believed that there was no God.
Some choose atheism for scientific or (like I did) philosophical reasons. Like a good doctor, instead of being distracted and distraught by the fruits of their beliefs, focus on discerning the roots of their beliefs.That marriage failed when she realized that she didn’t love me. We both have no doubt that we will be together until we die, at which point we will be separated. Even Milli and Vanilli are different—in fact, they aren’t even themselves.According to her, I will go to hell and she will go to heaven—or, in my version, we will be dead. I am not a woman who was born in San Jose, CA, grew up on a farm in upstate New York, matured in Washington, has six siblings, and is passionate about her family and her faith.Either way, we won’t be together anymore, and that’s sad. Rachel is a Christian and I am a heretical Jewish humanist. Christians and people of other faiths are different. I never will be that woman, and while I can understand her, empathize with her, feel pretty in her clothes, and love her deeply, I will never really know the depths of her experiences or the convictions of her beliefs.How can we fully be together when we don’t share the same spirituality? Christians of different denominations are different. No one will, except God (if you’re into that sort of thing).
Not because I have some fancy Ivy League degree hanging on my wall, nor because I’m a published marriage counselor—no, I’m a marriage expert because I’ve been married twice. My first marriage was to a lovely woman of like-spirituality. I know this, because my second wife, an even more lovely Christian woman named Rachel, told me so.